When Someone Dies
When Someone Dies
Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no harm, for You are with me. (23rd Psalm)
A synagogue is a place where we often share the great moments of our lives in the context of tradition. At no time is this more important than when one of our Beth El family experiences a death. Dedicated congregational members and staff are ready to help you as you grieve your loved one’s passing. In so doing, we hope that you, too, might someday identify with the journey of the Psalmist who was able to say, “You (G-d) turned my mourning into dancing. You changed my sack cloth into robes of joy.” (Psalm 30)
When Your Family Experiences a Death
When death occurs, despite the shock, you will be asked to make a number of immediate decisions. Rabbi Rosen, Rabbi Zerin and our Executive Director Rabbi Howard Sowalsky (860-233-9696) are available to answer your questions, to guide you, and to help you make the appropriate decisions. Your first contacts should be with a funeral home and the rabbi. A family member or close friend can make the contacts for you. The Beth El office can help you with names of Jewish funeral homes in the area.
According to Jewish tradition, the burial takes place as soon as possible after death. The family will want to meet with the funeral director to select a plot (if not pre-arranged), an Aron (a casket) and to make any other necessary arrangements. Our rabbis will determine with you the time of the funeral in consultation with the funeral director. Funeral services are not held on Shabbat or major Jewish holidays.
The rabbi will visit with the family prior to the service to provide support, answer questions regarding Jewish Law, and provide any needed advice. Also at this time, the rabbi will gather information about the deceased from family members for the eulogy and help make preparations for Shiva (the seven-day period of mourning following burial).
If you plan for the burial to be in the Beth El Cemetery and have not already purchased a cemetery plot please contact Rabbi Sowalsky.
We can also help you with some of the ritual aspects of mourning, including covering mirrors and arranging your Shiva house. Please let the rabbis know if you would like to connect with our volunteer helpers.
Many in our community have found comfort after the death of a loved one by reciting Kaddish during morning or evening minyan. By Jewish tradition, we say Kaddish for a parent for 11 months after a death and for a sibling, child or spouse, for one month. Whether you are familiar with the prayer or are new to minyan or even to Hebrew, you will find a welcoming group ready to greet and help you.
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Upcoming Events
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Friday ,
JulJuly 25 , 2025Shabbat Potluck
Friday, Jul 25th 5:30p to 7:30p
All are invited to join Beth El friends for a Shabbat Potluck Picnic! We'll meet at a fellow member's home to celebrate Shabbat with food, singing, and community. Bring a dairy/vegetarian dish to share (details in the registration). RSVPs are required. Click in to register! -
Tuesday ,
JulJuly 29 , 2025Chai Society Picnic at Beth El
Tuesday, Jul 29th 11:30a to 1:00p
The Chai Society invites you to a picnic at Beth El on Tuesday, July 29, at 11:30am. There will be hamburgers, hot dogs and veggie burgers, along with all the trimmings. We will be treated to entertaining music by Walter Mamlok on the clarinet, and Michael Schiano on the accordion. There will be a charge of $10 for our summer picnic. We'll gather rain or shine! -
Saturday ,
AugAugust 9 , 2025Exploring the Siddur: A deep dive into the language, meaning, music, and origins of our prayers
Shabbat, Aug 9th 5:30p to 7:00p
Second Summer Saturdays: June 14, July 12, and August 9, 5:30-7:00 Join Rabbi Rosen and Rabbi Zerin on select Shabbat afternoons throughout the summer for a light dinner/Seudah Shleesheet, learning, and zemirot/Shabbat songs. Each week, we will take a deep dive into one or two of the prayers in our Siddur, exploring topics such as the meaning of the prayer, the way it functions in the service, the different biblical and rabbinic texts that it quotes or refers to, new and traditional musical settings for the prayer, ways that music enhances the meaning of the text, and the history of how the prayer came to be a fixture in our prayerbook. Adults and teens of all backgrounds are welcome to join; no prior knowledge of Hebrew or the Siddur necessary. Light dinner will be served RSVP required (click in to register!) $10 suggested donation per person -
Sunday ,
AugAugust 10 , 2025Red Cross Blood Drive
Sunday, Aug 10th 8:30a to 1:30p
You can make a lasting impact with an amazing mitzvot by helping the American Red Cross! Please help us make a difference by donating blood at Beth El Temple. Please call 1.800.733.2767 or visit www.redcrossblood.org and enter: WeHa to schedule your appointment. Volunteers are also needed for registration and snacks, please call the office to sign up to volunteer. You can also save up to 15 minutes on the day of your appointment, by simply visiting www.redcrossblood.org/RapidPass to complete your pre-donation reading and health history questions. Everyday heroes like you can help save up to three lives with just one blood donation. Thank you for giving the gift of life. -
Friday ,
AugAugust 22 , 2025Shabbat Under the Stars
Friday, Aug 22nd 5:30p to 7:30p
Join us for an outdoor, family-friendly service and congregational dinner. Please RSVP by August 26 at noon.
Contact Us
Beth El Temple
2626 Albany Avenue
West Hartford, CT 06117
Office Hours:
Saturday & Sunday: Closed
Monday-Thursday: 8:30am - 4pm
Friday: 8:30am - 2:30pm
SULAM Beth El Educational Program:
Upcoming Events
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Friday ,
JulJuly 25 , 2025Shabbat Potluck
Friday, Jul 25th 5:30p to 7:30p
All are invited to join Beth El friends for a Shabbat Potluck Picnic! We'll meet at a fellow member's home to celebrate Shabbat with food, singing, and community. Bring a dairy/vegetarian dish to share (details in the registration). RSVPs are required. Click in to register! -
Tuesday ,
JulJuly 29 , 2025Chai Society Picnic at Beth El
Tuesday, Jul 29th 11:30a to 1:00p
The Chai Society invites you to a picnic at Beth El on Tuesday, July 29, at 11:30am. There will be hamburgers, hot dogs and veggie burgers, along with all the trimmings. We will be treated to entertaining music by Walter Mamlok on the clarinet, and Michael Schiano on the accordion. There will be a charge of $10 for our summer picnic. We'll gather rain or shine! -
Saturday ,
AugAugust 9 , 2025Exploring the Siddur: A deep dive into the language, meaning, music, and origins of our prayers
Shabbat, Aug 9th 5:30p to 7:00p
Second Summer Saturdays: June 14, July 12, and August 9, 5:30-7:00 Join Rabbi Rosen and Rabbi Zerin on select Shabbat afternoons throughout the summer for a light dinner/Seudah Shleesheet, learning, and zemirot/Shabbat songs. Each week, we will take a deep dive into one or two of the prayers in our Siddur, exploring topics such as the meaning of the prayer, the way it functions in the service, the different biblical and rabbinic texts that it quotes or refers to, new and traditional musical settings for the prayer, ways that music enhances the meaning of the text, and the history of how the prayer came to be a fixture in our prayerbook. Adults and teens of all backgrounds are welcome to join; no prior knowledge of Hebrew or the Siddur necessary. Light dinner will be served RSVP required (click in to register!) $10 suggested donation per person -
Sunday ,
AugAugust 10 , 2025Red Cross Blood Drive
Sunday, Aug 10th 8:30a to 1:30p
You can make a lasting impact with an amazing mitzvot by helping the American Red Cross! Please help us make a difference by donating blood at Beth El Temple. Please call 1.800.733.2767 or visit www.redcrossblood.org and enter: WeHa to schedule your appointment. Volunteers are also needed for registration and snacks, please call the office to sign up to volunteer. You can also save up to 15 minutes on the day of your appointment, by simply visiting www.redcrossblood.org/RapidPass to complete your pre-donation reading and health history questions. Everyday heroes like you can help save up to three lives with just one blood donation. Thank you for giving the gift of life.
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